Where do I start? Well, it's hard for one. Two, it's never a good idea to have 'the talk' when one party is ready to speak up and the other is not. Three, if you're not prepared to hear the good and the bad then it's best to leave it be until who knows when. We all know it, we've all heard of it, and we've all had the unfortunate and fortunate experience of having that conversation. "What are we?" This is the point in a relationship when communication is key.
I used to think that the best thing to do was to never bring 'it' up. 'It' being 'us'... What we want from each other, what bothers us, what makes us happy and of course, are we exclusive? I think my fear stemmed from the possibility of finding out that perhaps I cared more, or that they didn't want to be with just me. I'll put that out there, why not? But if you get to the point where you've spent a fair amount of time getting to know someone and falling for them in some way, shape or form, then I recommend stepping up to the plate and opening up. Otherwise, the not knowing can eat you up inside. Sure, curiosity killed the cat, but wondering about how your lover feels or doesn't feel can turn your thoughts into assumptions. That can't be good.
If you find yourself having 'the talk', look your lover in the eyes, be honest. You may say things that they don't want to hear and vice versa... and if it's a sure thing, you'll breathe a sigh of relief. You know that saying, "When the going gets tough, the tough get going?"... Well, I look at it like: When it gets tough... the stubborn leave and the tough are ready to work on it, whether the ride be bumpy or whether the ride be easy breezy.
3 comments:
Easy Breezy that's nothing to sneezy at! Loved the recommends & the personal feeling of the tell all. I just say, move your piano in & start playing to the tune of twos a crowd, but cozy nonetheless, while one's no fun. Yes, you've got to work at it, but the scales get easier & the songs get sweeter when you do. And if it doesn't work out, well, just call your friends or the moving company to get your piano back on the truck.
words to live by when one finds themselves in said moment!
Nice description of getting to "that point". Written like someone who did jump in the pool despite expecting the water to be cold. Of course, staying poolside and not diving in is the coldest position of all.
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